Unpopular dating site
When I used to lecture regularly at the Learning Annex on dating I often heard, ‘I hate dating. I can’t wait until I’m married.’ I just looked at them and said, ‘You think dating is work, just wait until you’re married!’ Of course that was very unpopular…but nevertheless.
It really felt like something had changed about the way America perceived and thought about race, and for at least that brief moment, the nation appeared united. For example, below are the numbers from Date Hookup, a site that we acquired a few years ago (but that still operates independently.) Date Hookup has a distinct userbase, a distinct user acquisition model, a distinct interface, yet their data reflects the same basic biases: While Ok Cupid is large enough that its demographics reflect the general Internet-using public, Date Hookup is a niche site particularly popular with Latinos and blacks (those groups comprise 13% and 20% of the site, respectively.) Other sites in our portfolio, with still different demographics and business models, show the same attraction patterns.No less than Karl Rove captured the moment well: “an African-American candidate who was aspirational and inspirational…is very powerful. Q: Is it possible that some small number of users is throwing off the averages? For example, 82% of non-black men on Ok Cupid show some bias against black women.It’s a night for our country to celebrate, and for the world to celebrate.”Meanwhile, that same evening, American Google Searches for the word “nigger” hit an all-time high.†† I learned this from the work of Seth Stephens-Davidowitz, a researcher at Google.) a few questions always seem to come up. And, similarly, it’s not outliers among the women driving the results. Anytime you’re trying to make an impression on a stranger.A Partner Won’t Ultimately Make You Happy– The research suggests that for happiness, there was no difference in happiness from just before the wedding until just after.Satisfaction with life did increase from just before the wedding to just after. It may be that your base line level of happiness and your ability to enjoy your life is more important than finding a mate to make you feel that way.
Some dating beliefs that may not always hold true include, ‘Love should come easily, when I least expect it,’ ‘My soulmate will make me happy,’ ‘Once I get married my relationship will be easy,’ ‘My soulmate will be the perfect fit for me,’ ‘ A guy should do XYZ or I won’t date him’ and, ‘The opposite sex is really the problem.’ I have taken these beliefs (even though there are many more) and have challenged them below, providing tips that will hopefully improve your dating success.